It is essential to cultivate artful boundaries as a feminine woman. These boundaries are not about building walls but rather creating space to live authentically and in alignment. Boundaries create an open canvas upon which you can paint your life’s masterpiece. Boundaries also protect you from energy vampires and things or circumstances that drain your precious, creative life-force energy.
Believe it or not, boundaries are actually a necessity for a river to flow. Think of a healthy, free-flowing river. Its banks act as a boundary between the water and land. Without the banks of the river, without its boundaries the river would overflow and cause damage like flooding. The entire river's life-giving health, eco system and nourishment depend on its boundaries.
Boundaries are a masculine principle because they provide a structure for the flow of the river. The free flowing water of the river is the feminine principle and when both are established, the ecosystem thrives! We have both masculine and feminine principles within and both are needed to maintain balance and alignment.
Establishing your boundaries can be challenging when you lack an overall vision or intention for your life because boundaries are intimately woven to your values, priorities, goals and sense of self.
It's essential to work on cultivating your inner garden, set personal goals, and develop a vision for your life to make the process of setting and maintaining boundaries more clear and effective. If we don’t have a vision for our lives, boundaries are usually non-existent or unclear. You will find it easier to determine kind of energy you invite into your life when you set healthy boundaries, when to protect yourself and where to draw the line with in various aspects of your life when you have a clear intention of what you want out of life.
Proverbs 29:18 "Where there is no vision, the people perish: But he that keepeth the law, happy is he."
For artful feminine boundaries, a good rule of thumb that I always live by is if someone asks me right on the spot to make a commitment on plans, 99% of the time I usually follow up with the phrase “Let me check my schedule.”
Instead of saying “yes” immediately and running the risk of disappointing the person by backing out or over extending myself leading to feminine burn out, this simple phrase has helped me tremendously. It allows me time and space to really feel if the invitation the other persons has extended is truly right for me.
No more people pleasing! Instead, feel empowered with these phrases to start your journey with artful feminine boundaries.
1. The Power of Saying No:
Boundaries start with the simple yet profound art of saying "no" when it serves your best interests.
Saying "no" or “not right now” doesn't make you selfish, it makes you self-aware and prevents feminine burnout.
Example Phrase: “Honored that you asked, but I have to decline this time. My plate is already full."
2. Feminine Self-Care is Non-Negotiable:
Putting yourself first is not a luxury but a necessity. Prioritizing feminine self-care sends a message that your well-being matters and people tend to respect that.
Example Phrase: "I've scheduled some self-care time this weekend. I’m needing some rest.”
3. Setting Emotional Boundaries:
Protect your emotional energy by being selective about who you allow into your energy feild. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. If someone emotionally drains you, they could be an energy vampire. You might want to consider distancing yourself from anyone who drains your energy. Your closest relationships should be reciprocal with an overall feeling of safety and trust.
Example Phrase: "I appreciate your perspective, thanks for sharing.”
4. Define Your Worth:
Know your worth and don't settle for less. This applies to relationships, career, and personal goals. Confidence in your worth is a boundary in itself. You true worth is found in the identity that you are a child of God.
Example Phrase: "I believe in my abilities, and I won't settle for anything less than what I deserve."
5. Boundaries with Technology:
In the age of social media, it's crucial to set boundaries with technology to maintain a healthy work-life balance and protect your mental health.
Example Phrase: "I've decided to disconnect from screens after 6 pm to create more space for relaxation.”
6. Respect Your Time:
Your time and energy is precious. Be selective about where you invest it, and communicate your boundaries effectively.
Example Phrase: "I'd love to help, but my time is limited right now. Let's find a time that works for both of us."
7. Embrace Imperfection:
Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Setting boundaries doesn't mean striving for perfection but recognizing your humanity.
Example Phrase: "I'm learning to embrace my imperfections and grow from mistakes. It's all part of my journey."
8. Seek Support:
Don't be afraid to seek support from friends, family, or a professional when needed. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Example Phrase: "I've reached out to a professional to help me navigate the situation."
Artful feminine boundaries are not about building walls but rather creating space for the garden of your feminine heart to flourish. When we feel open to make our own choices we thrive, and express our true selves. Setting boundaries is an act of self-love, and it empowers you to live life authentically and unapologetically. Use these phrases as tools to craft your artful feminine boundaries.
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If you feel ready to inspire the beauty, wisdom, and grace within you, this guide is here to help you deepen. There is no rush. No expectations. Just a gentle invitation to come back to yourself and settle in.
You are already whole.
This guide is a gentle invitation back to the sacredness that you carry within.
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