Hey Beauties: My Divine Feminine's,

Have you ever paused and asked yourself: "Am I building my life around the male gaze-what they think, what they want, how they see me?" It’s a question that can feel uncomfortable, but it’s one worth asking.

If the answer is even a little "yes," don’t worry...you’re not alone. Society has conditioned women for generations to center men in their lives, often at the expense of their own joy, purpose, and spiritual alignment. This is a result of a patriarchal society which is largely imbalanced.

But what if we flipped the script? What if, instead of chasing external validation, we centered our lives around God and our own inner truth? Following our joy and inviting in more pleasure. If your interested in how you can start living your best, most aligned life today, read on...

How Society Tricks Us into Centering Men

First, let’s unpack how we got here. From childhood, many of us are taught (directly or indirectly) that our worth is tied to how men perceive us. If we are useful or valuable in accordance to them- as of we are some sort of resource to be extracted from. It’s in the fairytales where the prince saves the princess, the movies where women are defined by their romantic relationships and "what they bring to the table", and the endless social media posts about being chosen by the masculine.

Even as adults, this narrative shows up in subtle ways:

• Prioritizing romantic relationships over our dreams, goals or friendships.

• Overthinking how we dress, speak, or act to appeal to men.

• Feeling like we need a man’s validation or attention to feel “enough.”

When we center men, we lose touch with who we truly are. Our divine energy, creativity, and feminine radiance-the things that make us unique may start to fade away. Everyone I know has either had a direct experience with, or know someone that has been in a relationship where "she lost herself"....

It's a tragic yet all to common truth that I see all to often from working with women for the past decade. 

Why Recenter on God Instead?

Here’s the truth... No man, no matter how amazing he is, can fill the void of God in your soul. When you center your life on God, The Most High, you anchor yourself in a love that’s unconditional, infinite, and always present. You begin to embody love itself and become a magnet for love in countless ways, not just through romantic relationships. 

God doesn’t ask you to change yourself to earn His love. He doesn’t require you to shrink, perform, or chase for approval. His love is a constant reminder that you are already worthy, just as you are.

When you let God take the center stage of your life, everything shifts. You stop looking outward for validation and start feeling a sense of peace and purpose that comes from within. Your decisions, relationships, and even your dreams start aligning with something bigger and more meaningful. You ooze radiance and wellbeing as a feminine woman because you feel comfortable in your own skin knowing you are already are chosen by The Most High.

Reconnecting with Your Inner Self

We can't truly recentered God in our lives unless we reconnect with our inner selves, thats where the connection begins. Because let’s be real...Many of us have spent so much time trying to be what others want that we’ve lost touch with our own needs, desires, intuition and our authentic selves.

Here’s how to start coming back to yourself:

1. Spend Quiet Time Alone
   Take a few minutes each day to sit with yourself. Pray, journal, meditate...Whatever helps you listen to your own heart again and be in your own energy- free from distraction.

2. Ask Yourself What You Truly Desire
   Not what society or social media says. Not what your partner, family, or friends want. What do you desire?

3. Nurture Your Passions
   Rediscover the things that light you up, that bring you joy and pleasure...Painting, dancing, cooking, traveling, singing. These are activities the resonate with you light your authentic self up for reconnection.

4. Set Boundaries
   Learn to say “no” to what drains you and “yes” to what nourishes your soul.

When you center your inner self, your confidence grows. You attract people and opportunities that align with your true self because you are no longer wearing a mask to fit in. You stop settling for unsatisfying relationships, jobs, or anything else that doesn’t feel right.

Decentering Men in Practice

This part can feel tricky because it means breaking habits that might feel deeply ingrained. But trust me, it’s liberating. Here are some practical steps:

• Notice Your Patterns: Do you dress a certain way to impress men? Hold back your opinions to avoid conflict? Start noticing when you’re putting men’s needs or opinions ahead of your own.

• Detach from Validation: Remind yourself daily that your worth doesn’t depend on anyone else’s approval. Repeat affirmations like, “I lack nothing, I am already whole.”

• Build a Supportive Circle: Surround yourself with women who inspire you and hold you accountable to your highest self.

This doesn’t mean cutting men out of your life entirely... This doesn't mean hating men at all. This is more about changing the role they play in your mind and therefore your life. Men can be wonderful partners, friends, and supporters, but they’re not the center of your world. When you prioritize you and God, you will find that you begin to have higher standards and respect for yourself which translates to how others respect you (including men).

What Happens When You Recenter God & You?

When you shift your focus to God and your inner self, something incredible happens: You glow. You become magnetic, not because you’re trying to please others, but because you’re finally living in alignment with the truth of your own inner light.

Here’s what your life starts to look like:

• You feel grounded and at peace, no matter what’s happening around you.

• Your relationships become healthier, rooted in mutual respect rather than neediness, manipulation and control.

• You start pursuing your dreams and goals because you become more confident.

This isn’t about rejecting men...It’s about creating space for the right ones to meet you where you are on your level, not where they expect you to be.

Never feel like you need to perform for a man- it literally kills your feminine soul.

An Invitation

So, here’s my invitation to you: Take an honest look at your life. Where have you been centering men? Where could you bring God and your inner self back into focus? Can you take a detox from men in a romantic sense for a few weeks and really develop a spiritual practice and test these ideas yourself?

It’s okay if this feels like a big shift because it is. But every small step you take brings you closer to the life you were created to live: one of freedom, joy, inner divine love and alignment.

You don’t need anyone’s approval to be radiant. You already are. It’s time to dive deep within...

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